As the New Year begins, it’s a great time to let go of what’s not working and to fully embrace what’s important to me.
The past has had its ups and downs, but that’s the past, live in the present, prepare for the future. As a new year begins, I plan to take the best of my experiences and turn it all to good.
I resolve to be more purposeful, more effective, and more creative. I will remove the imaginary obstacles and soar higher than ever.
- · Ramp up my parenting for attachment—occassionally I forget the trauma that my baby has experienced and I parent her like I would a bio child instead of working for attachment. While we are attached, she’s not yet 100% secure in her attachment, so I need to make sure I parent her at her developmental level, not her chronological age. (by the way, I'm a firm believer that attachment parenting is good for bios too, it's just not required the way it is for a trauma child)
- · After I realized I had failed to achieve my goal last year of opening a savings account for kiddo after getting her birth certificate and social with us as legal parents, I opened up the savings account since posting my failure here. My goal for this year is to put some money aside for her future.
- · Savings….need to work on that for myself as well. I love spoiling our kid and I tend to spend more than I should. I need to work on regular savings for ourselves as well. 52 week challenge would be great. $1 first week, $2 second week…..
- · Be mindful of my eating habits. I didn’t hit my goal last year of reducing a dress size, but I will this year. How I’ll do that: incremental habits that I can live with. If I maintained last year, just small changes will get me to goal this year and make this a lifestyle I can live with.
- · Making memories, too often I’m inclined to get a rut, decide to rest up on the weekend, but I have time to rest when I’m dead. Making memories as a family is important to me and I don’t want to look back with regrets when I’m on my death bed. I didn’t have the first 11 ½ years of my daughters life. While recharging and rest is important, enjoying each other also is. We will do things as a family to build connections and memories.
- · Contribute to an area of passion throughout the year, not just at Christmas (ie. Toys for tots at Christmas I always excel at, that’s not my only passion though and I can do better here and will in 2015!!)
- · Make better bonuses EVERY quarter this year than I did at my previous employer. Enjoy the rewards and make those bonuses count and not nickel and dime them away Get kiddo involved in an activity to get her out of the house and interacting with peers and improve her self esteem
- · Payoff a bill this year and free up more memory making money. We tend to not snowball our debt as we should. We have no car and house debt anymore, so I think we think because it’s “little” stuff that it’s okay to owe, but that’s crazy talk. Going to work on this this year!
· Be the best me that’s possible!