I've written her a letter this morning just to get it out. It's not being mailed today. Just writing it makes me feel better. If I feel later that it needs to be said and not just out of MY system, then I'll mail it.
MIL,
Unconditional love:
To love somebody with no
conditions or circumstances: to love completely
Love is a verb, not a
feeling
I’m very disappointed
that the choice was made to choose no contact with your granddaughter for the
next 6 years over having a relationship with your son.
The #1 thing we HAVE to
do to insure that our daughter feels like she’s in her forever family and for our
family to love each other unconditionally and demonstrate that through our
daily actions.
Defriending/blocking/etc
everytime there is a disagreement, both with son and his wife and child is
childish and not what I would have expected from a mother. I can’t imagine
shutting my child out, regardless of what happens in the future. The first time
we left it open for reconciliation so that our daughter could experience having
an earthly grandmother. I will not
continue to let my daughter be hurt by those that are suppose to show her love.
Your response to our
request for normalcy is very concerning at best. I’m stunned that you’re willing to leave what
happens 6 years from now to chance, just because you don’t want to speak with
me or DH.
Maybe she will contact
you when she grows up and want a relationship despite you shutting her out as a
child. If so, then she’ll have both our blessings and we will be proud that
she’s demonstrating unconditional love, even when it’s not shown.
If she doesn’t though,
remember that today sets the tone for tomorrow.
Maybe I don’t get it
because I always had unconditional love, but I don’t understand drama in
families and shutting each other out.
I hope all is well and
that you can rest in your decision without guilt. I know I wouldn’t be able to.
Signed,
Me
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