When somebody that had years of abuse tells you you're in an abusive situation, dismissing it is the last thing you should do. If they share their story, don't dismiss it. Understand the pain that comes from reliving it.
When friends speak up, it may be hard to hear, but look at the common denominator in your challenges. Is it one person that thinks its a bad relationship or more? If it's more, you know what needs to happen.
Love yourself enough to ask for help. People do NOT change and nobody should have to try to convince somebody they love to change. They should automatically be treated with love and respect. If you have to ask for love and kindness, it's not real.
A child can't control abuse within the home but anybody can stop abuse from a partner. What you ignore becomes more.
Doing nothing says it's okay.
If friends start drifting, it is usually because they've been alienated and because it's so difficult to watch. There is nothing that can replace true friends. Don't give up.
There is nothing harder than knowing somebody you love is in a controlling, bad, abusive relationship and not being able to change it.
It's even worse when it's flaunted how much they "love them" and knowing they've chosen them over true frlends and a good life. The people with good relationships don't have to post about it 80 times a day. If you do, you're trying to convince yourself and others.
Others know and love enough to want you happy and call you out. Love yourself. It only gets worse with time.
I'm so proud of my child for speaking up to her bestie and letting her know with love that she is in relationship that isn't healthy. There was a time it would have been my child on receiving end, not believing she was worthy of being treated well.
It hurts to watch her friend make excuses and keep accepting poor treatment.
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