We got there and found out that the graduation had been moved to Saturday and nobody had bothered to tell us. Our niece said her mom had said she'd told everybody.
Fortunately, kiddo didn't get too wonky. Normally a change in schedule or appearance of rejection would have her off the wall, but fortunately not this time (so far)
We had dinner with our niece and came home Friday morning instead of after graduation.
There were no extra rooms in the area, we had teacher scheduled to come out and babysitter for the dogs only thru Friday night.
Hubs and kiddo both think it was intentional. It may or may not have been and honestly, whether it's intentional or not, I'm just glad we got to see our niece. It was obvious she had no clue we hadn't been updated. I'd have been mad if we drove 4 hours each way and didn't even get to see her.
Why intentional? Hubs and sister in law do not get along at all.
The positive is that we avoided the trigger of crowds (graduation) and loud people (sis in laws family).
The negative is this schedule change last second, combined with mothers day weekend could potentially blow up. Trauma kids can act out big time mothers day weekend. Some because the first moms were abusers, others because the first moms didn't protect them from their abusers.
As we were driving down the road, when it was hubs turn to drive, I was checking my messages and I'm very concerned that baby sis's placement is getting ready to disrupt. I hope they'll keep trying. We have respite scheduled for next weekend for them, but it's sounding like it may not make it until then. I really hope it doesn't disrupt before then. Kiddo is looking forward to this visit so much.
One placement disrupted the day before our adoption was final and little sis didn't get to make it. If another disruption is right before they get to see each other, this will add pain for our daughter.
I am hoping that they'll postpone making a decision and let us see if we can make some progress with her, show her that her big sister is fine and not acting out, coach her a little and help her be calm, eliminating at least one stressor.
Fingers crossed, praying, join me in whatever you'll do.
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