Read something during lunch and think it is worth repeating....copied some of this but I can't find it again to name my source....some is all mine though, lol
How many times do we go to bed tired and overwhelmed, feeling as though we have not connected?
Children are people too and they should have a voice. Why is it okay for us to have opinions and our kids not? Why is it okay for us to be grouchy, but not them. Dr Suess had the right idea.
We all get tired at night. Kids fall apart, parents fall apart, and yet, it is one of the most important parts of the day, because when your child goes to bed, they have all night to think about what JUST happened.
So, when your children go to bed, leave them with love, tender voices, kisses goodnight (if they will accept them) and encouragement.
Just because our girl is a teenager doesn't prevent me from saying "Good night darling.... I love you..Sleep tight..." or maybe even rubbing her back and reading to her occasionally. I can say this even if they don't receive it. I can say it anyway. Don't stop just because you don't get those words back.
Sometimes you feel as though no one is listening and paying attention all those times when our love seemingly fell flat at her door.
But our kids do hear our words. Sometimes kiddo's mouth opens and her mother comes out. I hear back what I put in and it hits me in those moments "she does listen, even when she pretends she's not". So many things we say come back later, when we least expect it and the joy that she listens and retains.
Don't ever think, even for a moment, that it's not worth it. Ever y bit of energy put into our childs future is WORTH IT.
If they ask for one more drink of water. Get it for them.
When I was little, my daddy was good about this, even though mom tried to convince him I was manipulating him. I just asked because it was one way he showed love....yes, I could get it for myself, but that was "our time"....
Kiddo asks me for little things like that so frequently, things she can do herself and hubs will say "You can do that". I say "of course she can, but she wants momza to do that" and I do tend to spoil her a little.
The night before my wedding, my daddy got me a glass of water and told me a bedtime story) Even if you think it is a massive manipulation. Do it. If they decide that is the time to talk, set a reasonable 10 minute limit, and talk to them.
You cannot err on the side of love, voice, acceptance, compassion or patience.
LOVE NEVER FAILS.... never ever.